What exactly is being Truly “helpful?”

I gave a printed copy of the last blog, “Keep it Clean,” to a friend and she returned it just now with the comment… “This wasn’t really very helpful to ‘me’ at this stage, but thanks anyway.” I contemplated this and the only thing that kept popping up is kind of the other side of what the “Keep it Clean” blog says as regards to not conversing with “another” or always talking to one’s Self. I have found that it makes all the difference in the world if one is reading, watching videos or listening to tapes that “come from Presence” – ie: Krishnamurti, Mooji, Gangaji et al – by remaining as my Self. I will not “get anything” out of the listening if not listening from Presence. In fact it should feel as if one is not getting anything. How can I “get” what I am already being? Is water ever trying to get its wetness? To an intellect, whose job is to conceptually “get” or grasp, this can be most upsetting. To say I don’t get this, or that it’s “over my head” or it isn’t helpful is quite accurate. It is impossible to mentally grasp the pure Being I Am. One cannot think the marvelous sense of Presence, one can only “feel” It by being It. And to see that is to “get” It. Awareness cannot be “used” to help clear up perceived problems. All seeming problems are due to not seeing or “coming from” the Awareness I Am. For as This, no problems exist in the first place. All apparent suffering comes from identifying with the illusory separate self or little struggling ‘me’ that is trying to “get it”, instead of the pure Self I Am. Coming from the I-Principle or as K says, “Choiceless Awareness,” and not from thought, is being Truly helpful. Of course the Advaita police might say, “And to whom is it being truly helpful? Awareness doesn’t need any help and there isn’t two!” And I would have to agree with that, even though it ‘feels’ kind of unhelpful to do so!